Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is not just physical, but emotional as well. It’s a physical disorder that occurs primarily in men, and it’s very hard for their partners to tolerate it with them. If your partner has ED, confusion, frustration, or distance in your relationship may ensue. But the good news is that the two can come out of this trauma and might even develop greater intimacy with one another if they give the issues involved the necessary attention, care, and sympathy.
Better to Jump in With Both Feet!
The more you keep quiet about this, the more walls you are building. Men with ED feel guilty, ashamed, and their manhood will lose its gloss. Here, be the comforter and promise your partner that you will identify a safe place where you can discuss it with both of you. Less focus on the issue, and more focus on your/our emotions.
Relax, Do not Rush
Oftentimes, the rush to a “fix” makes things mostly worse. No rush. Do not forget that intimacy isn’t always sex. Intimacy is closeness, bonding, trust, sharing, and love. Snuggling on the couch together, hand in hand, hugging, or living activities with one another will take the guilt out of the act, allowing him/her to find the comfort of the relationship once again.
Go For Professional Guidance Together
ED can at times be a symptom of a medical condition like stress, diabetes, or heart disease. Getting them referred for a doctor’s appointment can be less daunting if you go with them. The fact that you are more than willing to take them through it assures your partner that they are not alone. Sites such as www.medypharmacy.com can also offer advice on treatments and means of managing ED that are worth investigating.
Celebrate Small Gains
ED management isn’t always going to be an overnight success—it’s about progress. If it’s more communication, healthier behaviors, or just less stress around intimacy, finding comfort in progress can make your partner feel cared for. Small victories, when shared as a team, make the relationship stronger.
Focus on the Relationship, Not Just the Condition
While it is easy to let ED occupy center stage, your relationship is much more than that. Healing only happens together through shared laughter, fun and emotional connection. When partners work together as a team, ED loses its power as a blockade, and becomes one moment along on a journey you are traveling together.
FAQs
1. How can I best bring up the subject of ED so I don’t hurt my partner?
You can’t go wrong when starting with empathetic intentions. Keep your focus of your discussion about reassurance, not about something they may feel is unflattering about who they are. For instance, “I care about us. I want to feel connected to you,” reassures your partner more than directly addressing the problem at hand.
2. Can ED affect the emotional health of both partners?
Yes. ED can cause frustration and stress – even feelings of self-loathing, for both partners. This is why communication and support for one another are so important.
3. Should couples seek therapy for ED?
Definitely! Sex therapy or couples therapy with or without it, with a therapist are interventions on how to restore intimacy and reconnect while working through the emotional and physical aspects of the condition.
4. Can I have intimacy during the time I am taking ED medication?
For sure! Intimacy is not just defined as sexual intercourse. While you and your partner pursue treatment for ED, touch, affection, and emotional closeness through alternate practices can also be equally satisfying
5. What would be my do not resuscitate with regards to helping the partner with erectile dysfunction?
Do not blame or criticize your partner, do not force him/her to give quick results or feel embarrassed. Non judgmental support is needed.
